Does your boyfriend go back and forth again and again? Learn to stop this now
Your boyfriend leaves and comes back again and again. You are so tired of it. It almost feels like your heart is at the end of a yo-yo string, doesn’t it? He breaks it only to beg you again for another chance. You give up, against your better judgment, and it all happens again. You swear this will be the last time you’ll ever accept it again, but in the back of your mind you know that you’re only fooling yourself. It has to stop. You deserve more than what you get from man. The question is: do you have the inner strength and insight it takes to make him stop treating you this way and start appreciating and valuing you for the treasure that you are?
If your boyfriend leaves and comes back more than once, you need to take a stand. Every time a woman constantly allows a man to leave her and then takes him back, she sends him a very strong and unflattering message about herself. She is telling him that she is not worth it. A woman who allows this to happen in her relationship is essentially announcing that she sees herself as someone of little value. You will allow your man to continually disrespect you just because he loves you so much. If you are doing this, your boyfriend will respect you little or nothing. He can’t because you can’t respect yourself very much either.
You are better than the way he treats you. You need to change it now. If you are in the middle of one of your many breakups right now, then there is no better time than the present to make a move in a more positive direction. Instead of impatiently waiting for him to tire of whoever he is seeing now to come back with you, let him know that this time you won’t be waiting for him. You could tell her that, but it won’t have the same impact as if you showed it to her.
Call your ex boyfriend and tell him you’d like to talk to him. Don’t sound melodramatic or angry. Sounds like yourself. Choose a public place in the middle of the afternoon. A coffee shop works great for this. Then get a shopping bag and load it full of the things you left at home. It can be everything from clothing to DVD to your toothbrush. Whatever belongs to you and is still in your possession should be in that bag. Then show up to the meeting looking amazing.
What you are about to say to your boyfriend will certainly surprise him because he is only occupying his time until he comes back. Tell him you wanted to put the past behind you, so you thought he would appreciate having his things. So wish him the best and leave. You must be absolutely calm and in control when doing this. Don’t cry or you’ll risk ruining the whole plan. Instead, smile, laugh a little, and walk away without looking back.
Once your boyfriend feels the sting of your rejection, he will seriously think about what he has been doing. You’ve basically left him right there forever and any man who has lingering feelings for his girl won’t let her get away. It will crawl back, but this time it will be different. This time it will be forever.