Intimacy with your partner and your jealous dog – oh that’s fun!
Imagine this scenario: you and your spouse or partner are on the couch watching a movie and you start to fall in love a little. Maybe you’re kissing or just snuggling and then the dog comes. Just now, he was happily curled up on the ground and now he’s barking, whimpering, pacing back and forth, or maybe even jumping between the two of you and growling. If you are a dog owner, chances are you don’t have to put in a lot of effort to imagine this situation. It is not uncommon for dogs to become disruptive during their owners’ intimate moments.
So what is the problem? Is your dog jealous? Is it possessive or protective? Or are you just anxious and very nervous? The answer is that it could be any of the above. By observing your dog’s behavior closely, not just “in the bedroom,” but elsewhere as well, you can probably determine what you are communicating to him in those awkward moments. If the problem is so severe that you fear your dog may be aggressive or bite someone, you should bring in a handler as soon as possible. Most likely, the situation is not as bad or serious as this.
If your dog is anxious or nervous, you can easily identify similar behaviors in other situations. A nervous dog will show certain symptoms such as shaking, whining, excessive licking or chewing, excessive barking or even vomiting and diarrhea. If you detect any of these signs in your dog outside of the bedroom or inside, he may have an anxiety problem. This may be due to owner changes, new babies, a new diet, or a prolonged separation from the owner. In some cases, dogs have physiological issues that need to be addressed. Of course, for them, you will want to speak to your vet. However, if you only see the behaviors during your intimate moments, the act itself is making you nervous. The best and simplest solution for this is to turn the bedroom into a dog-free zone.
A potentially more serious problem is if your dog is possessive or protective of just one person. This could be the problem if you find him trying to get between you and your partner or if he growls, snaps, or barks excessively when he is around. This type of behavior can escalate and cause very real problems. There is a possibility that someone will be bitten. If your dog is protective, you should notice it in other situations as well. If you react this way when a friendly stranger approaches your protected person or when someone approaches you and their owner when they are sitting together or hugging, you may have a possessive dog. This is not healthy for human relationships or for the dog.
The possessive scenario is best handled by a professional coach; But there is also a strategy that you can try on your own. You and your partner should sit together on the couch. When the dog approaches and tries to get between you, get up and remove the dog from the couch. After a few seconds, sit back down and repeat the procedure. Keep doing this until the dog stops the unwanted behavior. Eventually you will realize that this particular behavior leads to being eliminated and you will stop. When he displays good behavior for three seconds while you and your partner are sitting together, reward him with affection, a treat, or both.
Years of experience, but also scientific research, have shown that dogs experience jealousy and possessiveness. They may be jealous of each other or of people. When it gets in the way of your relationship, it can really be a problem. If the problem is only in the bedroom, just make it a no-dog zone. If it happens elsewhere, you may need serious training with a professional to get your life back to normal.