Are you being used by your girlfriend? 10 ways to know

Have you fallen hard and fast for a girl, only to find that things aren’t working out the way you hoped? She doesn’t seem as interested in you as you are in her, or she’s still hot and cold. Her changeability is confusing you and making you feel hurt and disrespected. You start to wonder; is she using me?

In a way, she seems like the perfect girl. She is charming, flirtatious and funny. When they’re alone together, things are great. She can even tell you that she loves you. But then she becomes gruff, careless and even distant. She flirts with other men and sometimes disappears without saying a word for several days. You begin to wonder if you are facing a relationship breakup. What’s going on?

Everyone, male or female, becomes vulnerable when they fall in love with someone faster and stronger than they fall in love with you. And it’s easy to feel unsure of where you stand with them.

A girl who does this is not necessarily a bad person. It is possible that she really likes you and that she is confused about the type of relationship that she wants with you. But it’s bad news to be in a relationship that isn’t reciprocal, because you’ll always find yourself wanting something that remains tantalizingly out of reach.

If you are confused about where you stand with your girl, you need to think about whether the relationship is worth continuing. It won’t be easy to walk away from her if you’ve really fallen in love with her, but you can at least get an idea of ​​how committed she is to you.

What are the signs?

When you’re trying to be a good boyfriend, it’s frustrating and painful to be treated with indifference. You want to believe the best, but your girl’s behavior is unpredictable and erratic. Despite what she tells her, you can’t help but wonder if she really loves you. You have to take a hard, objective look at how she treats you.

• She is not there all the time. If your girlfriend takes regular sabbaticals from your relationship, then you are clearly not her top priority. In lopsided relationships, the one who is less in love may stick with it just to fill time until something better comes along. And she likes to take time away from you to look for it. He may even be sleeping with other guys. This could be to keep her options open, because she can’t decide between you, or because he just likes sex. Whatever the reason, if she goes days without contacting you, then she has other interests.
• You don’t know his friends. Have you ever gone out with his friends, or even introduced yourself to them? If not, it’s a sign that he doesn’t see you as an important part of his life. A girl in love wants to show off her new boyfriend to everyone she meets. If you run into her friends when you’re together and they’ve never heard of you, then you’re definitely playing a supporting role in her life.
• She doesn’t call you her boyfriend. When a girl sees you as her boyfriend, that’s what she will call you. If she introduces you as a ‘friend’, or simply by your name (which nobody recognizes), then she is not talking about you behind your back. And in this context, that’s a bad sign.
• She treats you like a friend. Do you like to keep your distance in public? If all her hugs and kisses (and even holding hands) are in private, then she obviously doesn’t see you as the guy of her dreams. a girl in love loves being with a guy who likes PDAs. And she will happily reciprocate.
• She is ambivalent about the status of your relationship. If you talk about her as a girlfriend, she objects or looks dubious or hurt. Or talk about ‘being in transition’ after a breakup. But she is still in a relationship with another guy. Whatever her problem is, if she doesn’t see her relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend, then she keeps her options open. Make sure you don’t become the guy she sees only when she doesn’t have a better option.
• She is still emotionally in another relationship, whether she is dating the guy or not. Does she spend a lot of time agonizing over her past mistakes and the guy who dumped her? Women who have been hurt often look at other men to make sure of their attractiveness and desirability, and to make them feel better about themselves. You may also want to fill the void in your life. In these circumstances she is not interested in yourbut in anyone who helps take away the pain.
• She blows hot and cold on sex. When a relationship is new and passionate, there is never a bad time for sex. If your girlfriend’s interest is intermittent, or especially if she is lukewarm or non-existent, then you are not a permanent fixture in her sexual fantasies.
• She leads the relationship. Does she decide when and if they spend time together? Is she never available if she calls her? When a girl only wants to see you when it suits her, she is using you to fill in the gaps in her life.
• She is not interested in your life. Does he use you as a confidant or a shoulder to cry on whenever he needs it? And then fail to listen or remember when you try to talk to her about something going on in your life? A girl who loves you will want to support you and she will also seek your support. If she doesn’t, she’s not really interested in your.
• She is still in an unhappy relationship. Like women who have been dumped, women in unhappy relationships may look to other men for comfort and support. But no matter how unhappy she tells you she is, if she doesn’t leave, then her heart still goes out to the poor boyfriend. The more you let her cry on your shoulder, the less she will see you as a sexually attractive man. Because you’re behaving like one of her girlfriends.

If you find out you’re being used, it’s better than walking away hoping she’ll change and see you for the catch you are. When a man allows a woman to use him, she begins to lose respect for him and stops seeing him as a man she could fall in love with. And you will find yourself losing your confidence and ending up with a broken heart.

She probably doesn’t mean to hurt you: but she can be selfish and thoughtless (in which case she’ll never make any man happy), or she can be so wrapped up in her own problems that she just doesn’t see what she’s doing to you. Either way, there is nothing good that comes out of it for you.

So what should I do?

You have two options. Either you can walk away before they hurt you, or you can get hard and start using his back. It depends on how good of a guy you are and how strong your feelings are for her. Wearing it may save your pride, but it won’t make you happier in the long run.

You better find someone else who really loves you. So both will be happy.