I want to help you stop fighting with your ex and get back together!
In most cases, the most common question after a breakup is “what can I do to get back together?” Do you find yourself thinking, what could I have done differently or maybe you already know what went wrong but have no idea how to fix it? He could be sending letters of apology, leaving messages talking to his friends, etc.
Unfortunately, at this stage, none of the above will be of much help to you, the reason being that you will never know the real reasons behind the breakup.
Breaking up is emotional, neither of you are likely thinking rationally, and when emotions run high, arguments break out pretty quickly. It’s common that both of you can get to the stage where you’ve almost forgotten why you broke up in the first place and are just tied up in the current argument. Please note that further arguments of this nature will only amplify the issues you are currently experiencing.
At this stage, the best thing you can do…whether you want to get your ex back or move on, is to create space between you and your ex. Break out of the rut you’re in, hang out with friends, family, and just forget about relationships altogether. At this stage you need to take care of yourself, following this strategy will give you the necessary energy to rekindle the relationship if that is what you want to happen. Fighting with your ex when emotions are running high will only drain your energy and end up being detrimental to any chance you have of winning his heart back.
When you and your ex have had some ‘head space’ from each other you will find that you can implement strategies that will begin to repair the bridges, keep in mind that you will actually need a ‘strategy’ and just wait a period of time before you begging for him/her again will result in the same situation you currently need to fix. Once you and your partner have calmed down and the ‘issues’ between you are less serious, you can put your strategy in place to regain control of the relationship and get back on track.
What I’m trying to say above is that once you’ve been apart for a while and things have settled down, you’re in a much stronger position to turn things around. At this stage, they’re probably missing you too, they’ve had enough time away from arguments to start focusing on the good things you both had, rather than just the fights that have happened lately.
Take things slowly, carefully, and implement a workable strategy to ensure that every step you take is for a reason and, more importantly, has the desired effect on your ex.
Good luck