Military Marriage After Infidelity And Its Family Affects
There are more than 56% of couples who try to overcome infidelity. How easy is it? Is not! Especially in a military lifestyle when there is a code of conduct that soldiers just don’t follow. However, we in the US admire these people and they are doing it to each other. Respect and loyalty seem to go out the door once you close the doors and no one knows what goes on behind closed doors. It takes two very devoted people to participate in holding on instead of just finding the quick exit. Divorces are quoted at 2.4 million a year and end at a rate of 50%. Tragically we take the easy way out to blame the marriage and/or partner. What we don’t see are our own selfish ways affecting the people we love. The ugly truth is that one must live by remaining with a deep root sown hole in his spiritual character of immorality from birth. Your own insecurities are what drive you out of the marriage, not your partner and only until you can face it. You will continue to leak as big as an ocean and drown in your own pain, because you will never know who you are and who you love. Until you can work on your flaws and the love within, marriage is an unfortunate dissolution from the start.
If you are a man or woman who is always looking for the non-committal thrill and enjoys riding someone else’s horse and carriage and then handing it over at the end of the day, that ride is going to cost you. You are in your own denial of love abuse within your own hole in your character lies deeper. You are so afraid of love that you run away from it or run into the arms of a sadder married person when you are a teenager starting a life this way. Your life will just be a whirlwind and you will reap what you reap unless you make quick changes to care about who you are and what you deserve and others you hurt. The wife will always be the wife, you will always be the (lover = miss) you will not miss the stress, you will always be the miss in the stress. Have courage for who you are, because you will be just another one-night stand to add to your collection.
The military take such good care of their families! I’m not too sure about this honor. However, if you are going through a dishonorable affair or you are the victim or the intruder, there is a lot to think about before such acts. Many things will change your life forever: The nightstand may not be worth it! Trust me! If both are military, the pay is checkmate! I’m not saying you’ll be reviewing your case. You will pay a heavy price for your dishonesty, disloyalty and/or intrusion. It can cost you up to a year in jail, a dishonorable discharge, and all the money and a bad report for your future career. You made your bed, you will lie in it as you lay in it! In turn, no: Blame your spouse for handing you the consequences when he signed his life into the military and when he signed his vows. If you weren’t going to honor any of that, then you shouldn’t take on more than you can handle.
Adultery affects everyone tragically, but even more so when one spouse takes care of things at home with the children and the other spouse takes care of someone else instead of their family. If you love yourself, you will do whatever it takes to find everything in your marriage. There will be no room for a leaky ocean because you have healed that hole: which only you can heal. So, lest you end up being that 50% in the divorce: don’t get married until you really love yourself first!
This is the biggest problem in marriages today and yesterday!