The idiots guide to getting an ex girlfriend back
If you want to get your ex girlfriend back after a breakup, there are a few general rules of thumb to follow to give yourself the best chance of doing so. There is no right, perfect way to accomplish this, but you can definitely improve your chances of getting it back by following these simple rules.
Rule number one – Do not be an idiot. Being aloof and keeping your distance with your ex girlfriend is fine, but that doesn’t mean you can or should be mean to her. Sometimes doing the minimum can give the maximum effect.
Rule number two: Don’t wait forever to contact her again. While it’s true that the waiting game is essential to getting an ex girlfriend back, you really shouldn’t go overboard with it. Contact her too soon and you’ve at least given her a chance, contact her too late and you would have failed before you could try anything.
Rule number three: don’t produce while you wait. If you’re going to give your ex girlfriend some time to herself, then make a commitment to stay away and do so for at least a couple of weeks. Check in with her once in a while and you might as well throw in the towel on her now.
Rule number four: Don’t use jealousy unless things go wrong very quickly. Your ex girlfriend knows you very well, she uses jealousy to get her attention with a halfhearted attempt and she will see it coming from miles away. She thinks of jealousy as a last resort, but don’t hesitate to take advantage of it if necessary. If you’re moving on much faster than you anticipated, or if you’re already starting to date other people, you may need to take drastic measures.
Rule number five: make friends with your ex girlfriend’s friends. You may not have a choice in this matter, but if you have a good relationship with some of her friends, be sure to keep in touch with them. You can let her know that your ex girlfriend is a wonderful person and that you’ve really loved being with her, but make sure she thinks that you’ve moved on and are okay without her. Basically say only nice things about her and show them that you are a gentleman. Let me put it this way, a subtle reminder of how well you’re doing post-breakup isn’t going to help put your ex girlfriend to sleep at night. Let her friends know about her current status and she will hear from her at the latest right after she told you.