Die to heal
“Out of suffering the strongest souls have arisen; the most massive characters are marked with scars.” ~ Kahlil Gibran
These words came to me the other day and I thought wow, this says it all! I decided to look for the words dying and heal in the dictionary. The synonyms for dying are disappear, fall, vanish, disappear and become extinct. Synonyms for heal are restore health, repair, heal, and repair. Perfect!
Do we have to be in a place where we are dying to be healed?
Do we need to be down to get up?
I don’t know about you, but I did! It was only when I said that I couldn’t live any longer that my deep healing began!
I often wonder why so many people are terrified of deep healing. I wonder what are they so afraid of? We spend much of our lives living in a state of discomfort holding on to patterns from the past. I continue to meet people, including clients I work with in my practice, who recognize how scared they are of letting go because it is all they know, even if the behaviors no longer serve them.
I ask them: “Do you think you have the capacity to change?” They often respond with uncertainty and share their sense of helplessness in knowing how to do it. That concern prevents many from moving forward and becoming the desire of all their hearts.
I know firsthand that it heals a process that must happen from within. It takes courage and tenacity to heal. To truly heal you must be willing to give up everything that no longer serves you. That is the only way healing works. We can put on temporary plasters, but the wounds will never go away!
You may notice that your mind says one thing while your heart says another. What seems simple can seem very complicated. I remember wondering, many years ago, if I really wanted to be cured. Of course my mind said yes, but my body said no! I learned through a wonderful healer who practices the art of kinesiology that what our mind wants does not necessarily transfer to our body. In hindsight, I understand it very clearly. Of course I wanted to heal myself from a lifelong crippling disease, but was I ready to make healing my only priority? Was I willing to dig deeper and do the intense work that would be necessary to rewrite my DNA? Seven years ago I had no idea what that meant. Today I know the difference and continue my healing journey with gratitude every day of my life. Today my greatest joy is empowering others to have the courage to heal as I have.
Take a moment and ask yourself, “Do I really want to heal? Do I want to get rid of all the ‘things’ that keep me stuck, passive, lonely, angry, depressed, controlling.” The list looks different for each of us, but you can trust that what you are identifying is getting in the way of inner peace and well-being.
When you invite the healing process, you open yourself to all possibilities. It is about knowing, opening and giving up. It is what your heart and soul must do as you go through the process to become at peace with yourself and the world around you! It is nothing short of a transformative miracle! I know, I’m on a trip.
Make a list of everything you would like to change about yourself, that is, behaviors, patterns, and reactions. Ask yourself: “What brings me joy? When do I feel deep sadness?”
Write it. It belongs to me. Understand it.
Whatever you do, don’t judge yourself! You’ve had enough judgment in your life!
Healing begins when you open your heart to be the person you want to be.