Get your girlfriend back by calling her bluff
It happens all the time: fights and arguments lead your girlfriend to break up with you in anger. She tells you that she would be better off alone, or that the two of you need some time apart, or that whatever you have just isn’t working out. It doesn’t matter how your relationship ended; what matters is what you do to put it back together. If you want her ex back, the best course of action is sometimes to do less rather than more.
When a girl ends her relationship, she does so for one of two reasons. Either she’s legitimately done dating you and she really wants to see other people…or she’s just so fed up with one or more aspects of your current relationship that she can’t continue it anymore. If your ex broke up with you over this resigned, “we just don’t get along” kind of thing, you might think the best thing to do is promise to change for her. Maybe send her some flowers or write her some cards. Listen to the radio, choose the songs that belong to your relationship… show her the romance that you were missing, so that her heart will melt and fly back into her arms.
Actually, these are the worst things you can do to fix a breakup. Ironically, they are also the most common avenues men take when trying to get back together with an ex-girlfriend.
Sometimes you need to call your girlfriend’s bluff. If he’s ranting and raving about something, it’s often good to let him say it. Does she want her space? Give it to her. In fact, give her 10 times more space than she ever asked for. By the time she realizes that she is 100% alone, she will see things a little differently. What about when she doesn’t hear from you for a few days, no emails, no texts, no contact with your ex at all? She will think a lot.
Playing games with your relationship is never the answer, but sometimes it’s best to give your ex time to think things through. Neither of you can see the true nature of your relationship if you are always arguing and fighting. So when she breaks up with you, the worst thing you can do is continue the battle… fighting the breakup. You are not going to convince her to come back to you while you fight for her to see things your way. Instead, she calmly accepts her decision to end things. Wish him luck and then walk away.
This type of reaction is not what your girlfriend expects and forces her. She has to put all her cards on the table, because suddenly you’re not playing anymore. By removing yourself from the equation, you’re giving him time to take a long, hard, individual look at what the two of you had together. And even more important? You are giving your ex girlfriend a chance to miss you. When she gets lonely and needs you, she will reconsider her decision to break up. This will not happen if you constantly beg or beg to get your relationship back.
Finding out about your girlfriend cheating is one of the best ways to get an ex back. It is important to preserve your dignity and, above all, respect her. After seeing things through your own eyes, without you trying to interfere, any decision you make to get back together will come from your own mind. This will be fundamental to building a future together.