Warning Signs of a Failed Relationship – Relentless Quarrels – Part 4

Welcome back to my ongoing series. In Part 4, I’ll discuss the unrelenting bickering that occurs when the relationship is in complete disarray. Of course, there will always be quarrels and disagreements in the relationship, but when arguments escalate to the point where you can’t have a conversation without arguing, this is a huge warning sign that the relationship is falling apart. Identify where you are in this topic. The following are a series of questions you may want to ask yourself if you feel like there is too much arguing in your relationship. Do you notice that there are more arguments and less conversation? Do you usually go against everything your partner says, just to argue? Do you find ways to annoy your partner, whether or not it is a valid reason? When your partner asks you a question, do you give a nasty one-word answer just to stop the conversation? If your partner has an opinion about something, will you say otherwise, even if you agree with them? Do you avoid being in the same room for fear that if a word is spoken it will turn into an argument? Do you despise the sound of your partner’s voice? When your partner speaks, are you thinking SHUT UP SHUT UP in your head? If you answered yes to ANY of the questions above, you are in dire need of help with this issue. When communication is sabotaged and a complete thought cannot be expressed without interruption or discussion, the relationship is in serious danger of failing. Without communication, it is impossible to know what your partner needs and wants. If there is a misunderstanding, the only way to resolve it is through communication. And if the only communication you have is an argument, then you have all the red flags you need to warn you that you’re headed for disaster.

So, let’s discuss some of the reasons why these arguments occur. It’s common that over the years of being together with someone, they eventually get on your nerves. That’s normal. But constant bickering can be a sign of frustration, resentment, guilt, jealousy, infidelity, or insecurity. At this point, you just can’t stand the sound of your partner’s voice. In fact, it gives you goosebumps and makes you want to scream.

There is a deep-seated reason for all these emotions that cause arguments. Unfortunately, what most people don’t realize is that it’s a sign of their own unhappiness. Arguing and whipping the couple is a way of projecting. When someone is unhappy, they need someone to blame. But no one is responsible for your happiness except you. So unless you are communicating this to your partner, there will be an ongoing argument that never stops. The ongoing misunderstanding goes on and on until it blows up and blows out of proportion and the partnership fails.

As a relationship coach, I am aware of the incessant bickering that occurs in relationships. I have worked with couples who thought there was no way to solve the problems. But as you have learned, problems CAN be resolved if both parties are willing to resolve it with constructive communication. You will be surprised how one session can clear up so many things that seemed like a mystery to both of you. Take note of these warning signs and don’t hesitate to seek help. It is painfully obvious that you will not be able to solve this problem on your own. Constant bickering and disagreements will always get in the way of listening to each other with an open mind without prejudice. You are just 3 easy steps away from having nice and loving conversations with each other. Find out how it works. Call for a consultation and learn more about how easy it is to get your relationship back on track.